Comparing yourself is a thief of joy. People have compared themselves to others since the beginning of time, but people are now doing it more than ever. This isn’t your fault, a lot of advertising is designed to make you compare yourself to others, feel like you are lacking, and to buy their product. It’s a load of bullshit! So here are seven techniques you can use so you can stop comparing yourself to others.
1. Digital Detox
If it makes you feel bad, unfollow it. That celebrity or fitness guru making you feel crap about yourself… unfollow them. That person you went to school who posts body shaming content… unfollow them. You get the picture here. Just follow content that makes you feel good.
One of the biggest causes of comparison is not having gratitude for yourself, the people in your life, and your current situation. Start a gratitude practice by either writing a list of things you are grateful for or noting three things you are grateful for each day.
3. Check yourself
Check how you are talking to yourself about yourself. Maybe you say things that aren’t so nice about yourself either out loud or in your head. Either way, you don’t need to be your own biggest critic. Give yourself a break from yourself and get into the habit of giving yourself some loving kindness.
4. Check yourself again
How are you talking about other people? Do you tear other people apart for their looks or are you highly critical of celebs? Searching for the flaws in others may make you feel good for a millisecond but long term it can be damaging. Get into the habit of looking for the positives in others rather than the negatives.
Start working on accepting who you are and the body you are in. You have one life and you can choose to either accept and befriend yourself or dislike and critic yourself. I don’t know about you, but I know which option sounds better to me.
6. Stop “Shoulding”
Get out of the habit of saying “I should to that” or “I should’ve done that”. Either do the thing or stop giving yourself a hard time for things you didn’t do. Statements like that will keep you focused on what you are “lacking” rather than what you currently have. Remember, gratitude is key!
7. Shush your inner critic
There is one person you can compare yourself to and that is yourself. What can you do to improve how you treat yourself, boost your own confidence, or be kinder to yourself than you were yesterday? And finally, instead of blaming yourself for your past “mistakes”, forgive yourself and remember that you are perfectly imperfect.